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10 Steps for Attracting Love

Cupid’s Wave: 10 Steps for Attracting Love



Cupids’ Bow. Valentine’s Day is coming soon and we will see hundreds of cards in the store with cherubic Cupid pointing his bow and arrows at his soon-to-be victims, smiting them with love.


But as much as this sweet image has been part of our cultural legacy of a day devoted to finding and celebrating love, it needs an update! Cupid needs to add particle and wave physics to his arsenal! The little guy needs to attract instead of attack!


All that said, you’re probably not waiting around for Cupid to do you any favors. If you are a single person today, you are more likely to be searching for love online (Match.com or EHarmony.com), in your social networking organization (Facebook, My Space), at work (where statistics show a high percentage of relationships begin), in school, at your workout gym/yoga studio, or within your special interest group (church/spiritual center, pet rescue, cycling club, cause-related organization, etc). Or maybe you’ve just given up looking, but not given up hope.


Anytime of the year is a good time to be open to finding for a lover/partner/spouse, but with Valentine’s Day upon us, we are reminded that love is possible for any and all of us. However, we need to begin to view the search for love in terms of Conscious Creation and energy…a far more effective and compelling way now that the Law of Attraction and energy management have come to light.


So, how would you go about attracting a soul mate, a true love? Let’s look at ways to apply your skills at Conscious Creation. Here are 10 steps.


  1. Raise Your Personal Frequency

In order to be attractive to a prospective partner you must be vibrating positive, compassionate, appreciative, loving frequencies. If you are vibrating negative waves of energy (desperation, resentment at past lovers, judgment, criticism, self-centeredness, etc) you will drive people away even if your words are sweet. People will sense what is underlying because your body will be radiating that energy. Furthermore, if you raise your frequency, you will become a faster and more effective manifestor, attracting your partner more quickly. 


  1. Become Love to Attract Love

Like energy attracts. If you want to attract love, you must vibrate love—unconditional love. You must be loving in intent, in your heart, in deed, in action, in appearance. Loving energy should permeate your entire being. Get quiet and allow love to become your default energy. 


  1. Love Yourself

If you are constantly self critical (I’m not thin enough, I’m too bald, I wish I was smarter or more glib with the opposite sex, etc.), you are vibrating energies that will repel your prospective lover. Because if you are critical of yourself, you will be critical of him/her. If you accept and love yourself, you have begun the process of accepting your partner for who he or she is. Furthermore, if you dislike yourself or find fault, you are not operating in a state of unconditional love, the love that will draw forth your partner.   


  1. Start Consciously Creating Love

Create a vision of the person you want to bring into your life. Not just what he or she might look like, but what qualities that person has, what interests might you share, what values, how the relationship will feel to you. When you start Consciously Creating, remember that the emotional component is most critical for this is the “express mail to the cosmic post office.” You must feel the emotions of living this beautiful relationship.


  1. Be Specific

It is essential that you be specific in your Conscious Creation about what you desire in your soulmate. My friend Lee is a very handsome, charming, intelligent and successful entertainment entrepreneur, but he had difficulty finding the right woman for him. So he sat down and started writing, getting very specific about what he wanted in a wife. Very soon after that, she walked into his life and they have now been blissfully married more than a dozen years. The Universe can’t bring it forth if you are unspecific or conflicted. It has to have clarity to match the vibrational request.


  1. Make Space in Your Life for Your Lover

Is there room in your life for this lover? Is there enough time in your life? Is there enough “attention bandwith” to make someone feel valued? Is there space in your closets? Create spiritual and energetic space so that the Universe can fill the vacuum with the partner you are seeking. This also applies to releasing old energies relating to past partners. If you hold onto bad memories, anger, resentment, etc, this energy will not allow positive new loving energy to come forth. Dump the garbage and let the Universe fill up your psychic space with the vibrant, loving energy inspired by your relationship with a wonderful new partner. 


  1. Trust the Universe

Have faith that once you start this process, and you have done all the aforementioned steps, that the Universe is at work creating a new reality for you, presenting you with opportunities to connect with possible partners, maneuvering you into situations where the right person may present him or herself. Believe that you will meet your partner and you will…but note that this will be in Divine timing. It may not be on your timetable. So be patient.


  1. Affirmations

Create and restate affirmations that reinforce your belief and readiness for this person’s arrival. Words like this: “I willingly embrace the loving partner who is coming into my life and am creating a safe haven in my life for him/her” or “I am filling myself with abundant and unconditional love so that I may share it with my lover who is now in my life.” It is especially effective to act as if that person has already arrived on your doorstep when creating affirmations. 


  1. Preparing for Love

Take the steps to prepare yourself for love. Be groomed beautifully, even when running errands. Take pride in your appearance. Pamper your body. Work on your fitness. Make your home welcoming. Take classes to enhance your knowledge and wisdom. Practice your charm, kindness and focused attention on others so that you will be accustomed to doing so when your partner arrives.


  1. Raise Your Antenna for Love

Be out in the world. Don’t isolate yourself. Raise your antenna and use your wavelengths of energy to start connecting with people. Put yourself in places where you might meet someone—or meet someone who can introduce you to someone else.  Let your waves go out and bring back your new love…just like a modern wave-wielding Cupid.   

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